Melody Beattie Quotes

What do you do when life blindfolds you and spins you around? We think it’s our fault, that we’re to blame, when really we should be focused on being gentle with ourselves.

Money is not evil. There is no scarcity, except in our mind and attitudes. And what we believe we deserve will be about what we shall receive.

Each moment in time we have it all, even when we think we don’t.

Resentments are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve with forgiveness and letting go.

Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don’t have to do all the work, only my share.

Embrace and love all of yourself – past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself. Tell yourself good things about yourself.

It’s hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing ‘right,’ which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will actually disappear.

In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don’t forget everything you’ve done. You build on it, but it’s always there.

Love means each person is free to follow his or her own heart.

I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people’s lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.

Acceptance is the magic that makes change possible. It is not forever, it is for the present moment

Don’t violate your own code of values and ethics, but don’t waste energy trying to make other people violate theirs.

A codependent person is one who has let another person’s behavior affect him or her and who is obsessed with controlling that person’s behavior.

I want people who have received a diagnosis of Hepatitis C to know that they didn’t just receive a death sentence. They do have options, even if the person who gave them their diagnosis isn’t aware of all of them. The path they choose doesn’t have to be one of desperation.

The surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other people’s business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs.

Our strength will continue if we allow ourselves the courage to feel scared, weak, and vulnerable.

Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.

Waiting time is not wasted time. Something is being worked out – in us, in someone else, in the Universe.

Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn’t; we feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not.

Life is always moving, changing, shifting into its next shape. The movement is natural. It is how we evolve. Let the shifts happen. Take responsibility for yourself each step of the way. Trust the new shape and form of your world

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.

Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give.

Worrying, obsessing, and controlling are illusions. They are tricks we play on ourselves.

Prayer changes things. Prayer changes us. Prayer changes life. Sometimes an event has been manifested that needs to be stopped, midair. Don’t pray just when you’re in trouble. Pray every day. Surround yourself with prayer. You never know when you might need an extra miracle.

There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it.

We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated.

Letting go helps us to to live in a more peaceful state of mind and helps restore our balance. It allows others to be responsible for themselves and for us to take our hands off situations that do not belong to us. This frees us from unnecessary stress.

I never know what the next lesson is going to be, because we’re not supposed to know — we’re supposed to trust ourselves to discover it.

The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.

Make New Year’s goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you’re interested in fully living life in the year to come.

Guilt can stop us from taking healthy care of ourselves.

Much of the time, the things we feel guilty about are not our issues. Another person behaves inappropriately or in some way violates our boundaries. We challenge the behavior, and the person gets angry and defensive. Then we feel guilty.

Live your life fom your heart. Share from your heart. And your story will touch and heal people’s souls.

Remember to be kind. Remember to be loving.
Remember to feel all your feelings and to take care of yourself.
But most of all, remember to be happy.

Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.

Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other people’s best interests.